I also found another one I wrote, inspired from the same struggles you're going through: "How the heck do I send this supposed adult out into the world without me?

https://podnarwriting.medium.com/13-truths-i-want-my-autistic-son-to-accept-on-faith-as-he-becomes-an-adult-a551d89bd093?sk=79ec0e1f7f7bcc3acd85610eb0aaf401

I know posting links to your own work in comments is sometimes considered spam. I posted these because I thought they might help other parents who are going through the same stage with their autistic children. But I'll be happy to remove them if you prefer.